failure – Ask Dr. Samantha

You Are Not A Failure

“Failure is an event, not a person.” This quote by Zig Ziglar captures the essence of the biggest internal battle that many people struggle with. Most of us equate the mistakes and failures that take place in our lives to mean that we inherently are a failure. We find it impossible to see the things that go wrong as lessons to learn from because we personalize these occurrences to mean that WE are bad, not good enough, or not worthy. We become our own worst critic and burdened with the constant berating of what we “should have” or “could have” done but didn’t do, we become paralyzed to move forward.

Our mind is so very powerful and it can create a reality for us that is demeaning and painful. It gives us reasons and excuses to stay playing small and hiding the incredibly powerful human beings we are. And, the truth is there should be no excuse your mind can come up with in a weak emotional moment that is acceptable as your reason for giving up or giving in.

Don’t assume a banner of failure over your life or accept the reasons you give for why things will “never work”. Instead, claim your brilliance and embrace your uniqueness. You are exceptional! Do you remember what I’ve said before about failure and it bringing forth a positive experience in your life? It’s time for you to stop using excuses and reasons for not taking action in your life. You can turn the negative meaning you have of failure into a positive experience and propel yourself forward and take new actions.

Start using positive affirmations that can turn the tables on your image of what failure is and what excuses/reasons you are habitually using every time a setback arises. Make up your mind to move forward making progress with your goals and dreams no matter the circumstance surrounding you.

Repeat these affirmations to yourself until you start to feel the difference in your own mind.

“I know that I am not perfect and love myself anyway. I am not a failure or less of a person because I make mistakes. I expect success and failure as part of who I am.”

“There is no other person or situation that can hinder me from taking daily steps towards my goals. I control my forward progress.”

“I rise up and conquer my mistakes and failures. My determination and perseverance are strong.”

“This is a temporary problem that I can handle. Not only will I overcome this situation, but I will learn and grow forward in spite of this detour.”

Remember to place any negative emphasis on the situation that isn’t working. Not You. YOU have the power and skill to achieve and overcome. Your thoughts hold the key to you being able to unlock your self-imposed limitations and breaking through to the success you’ve always dreamed of but have been too afraid of failure to claim.

So the next time you want to hide behind an excuse instead of claiming the magnificence you truly are, think on that. Failure is an event, NOT a person. You are not a failure. You are a remarkable and exceptional person created to rise up and shine your brilliance. You got this!

by Dr. Samantha

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The Positive Side of Failure

Mistakes happen. There is absolutely nothing you can do about them. They can’t be avoided or prevented. Each and every one gives you the opportunity to grow in a positive direction; that’s the silver lining. Mistakes can bring incredible, unexpected results!

Failure isn’t always a negative in life. Start thinking of a mistake as a growth opportunity and look forward to the next possibility with excitement. There’s no telling what may happen when the sky’s the limit. For example, did you know that the slinky, penicillin, chocolate chip cookies, potato chips, silly putty, fireworks, post it notes, and x rays are just SOME results that came into being because of mistakes?

You have the power to make any situation a positive or negative no matter what intended outcome you expected. The more you live outside your comfort zone, and learn how to roll with whatever comes up while keeping a positive attitude, the more you will achieve and be happier during the process. You can create the life you want.

Perfection doesn’t exist. And, if you need to know that everything will always be a success before moving forward, you will never get anywhere. How do you let fear of failing or making mistakes stop you in life? Remember to take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What can I learn here? Is there a new possibility from this mistake that I can use to my advantage?” Calm your fears, think outside the box, recalibrate your inner GPS, and enjoy your new path. Take a leap of faith; don’t hold yourself back.

You are the leader of your own life. Embrace strong leadership qualities in yourself. Be bold, fearless, and confident. Don’t apologize for the strong person you are. Take a few moments and think through some past failures. Is it time to reassess and try again? Only this time, use the mistakes to your advantage and propel yourself forward.

Think about how much joy the world has felt because of the slinky, silly putty, and homemade chocolate chip cookies. Be who you were meant to be, follow your heart, make your own mistakes, and rise to the challenge of life. Be an example of how you can turn a negative into a positive.

All those dreams you have held onto inside but were too afraid to go for-go for them! With the fear of failure removed, what do you have to lose? Absolutely nothing! So then the question becomes what could you possibly gain? Don’t make the mistake of not trying to find out!

by Dr. Samantha

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Fear Less, DO More

What is the purpose of fear?? Some say it helps them get motivated to do something. Others will tell you it makes them paralyzed.

Fear is our body’s mechanism for stopping us from putting our heads into the mouths of lions! It’s our brain’s mechanism for keeping us safe. It comes from the little alarm signal we have in our brain called the amygdala. The amygdala is supposed to send us a signal telling us that danger is present and we should “Watch out”! The problem for many of us though is that our amygdala is pretty sensitive and it keeps going off and ringing in our heads when it is really a false alarm.

We react to most fears…such as fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment and even fear of public speaking almost exactly the same as if death were imminent! Our body doesn’t know the difference. When we are in a state of fear, our brain thinks death is coming and you need to be protected…so it gets prepared to fight, flee, or freeze. The adrenaline gets pumping and your heart beats fast.

Can you relate?

For many people FEAR stops them from moving forward and doing the things they really want to do. It keeps them stuck. They’re afraid of being rejected, of not succeeding, of being humiliated, and so they do nothing. They stand in their own way and keep themselves in the same place. Then doubt creeps in…then worry…and then you stop believing WATCH: Arnold Classic 2018 Live Stream – Generation Iron Fitness & Bodybuilding Network trenbolone acetate bodybuilding granny helps browns’ mingo get jacked that you CAN realize your dreams, that you deserve to fulfill your dreams, and you stop believing in yourself.

The funny thing about fear is that once you realize that you won’t REALLY die if things go wrong or if people don’t like you and you keep reminding yourself that you can be OK no matter what, the fear goes away. Now I am not going to tell you that it will never come back, cause that would be a lie.

But I can tell you that when you feel the fear and do it anyway, your body and brain gets the message.

So the next time you feel like if you might die if you make a mistake or someone rejects you, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen if…”

Then take a deep breath and do it anyway. Teach your brain and body that not everything is a life or death situation. Action trumps fear every time. You can do it!

Peace and Blessings,

by Dr. Samantha

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