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FEAR-What’s it to you?

fearFear is often a paralyzing emotion. It’s that 4-letter F word that can leave you feeling completely scared and confused inside your own head. I read somewhere once that fear has two meanings. Forget Everything And Run, OR Face Everything And Rise.

I believe this is absolutely true. You have a choice, as always. When FEAR shows up, it feels very real. Your mind and body believe that you will die if you do that thing you are scared to do…or if you fail…or if someone rejects you. You tell yourself it’s impossible and you can’t do it. Your mind and body may want you to completely shut down and give up…or RUN for the hills! But when you let yourself give in to the fear and all the negative thoughts, emotions, people, and situations in your life take control; you give up your power to choose happiness for yourself.

But there’s also another option. You can choose to take a look at those FEARS, challenge them and create your own NEW reality. One where fear may still be present, but it’s not crippling you or your ability to live for your future. A reality that includes you realizing you have the power to solve your problems and make a choice to overcome every situation you face. Will you really die if you ask someone something you’re afraid they might say No to and they say No? Absolutely Not! A “No” is just a no…it doesn’t define you or decrease your self-worth.

I’ve said this before and I’ll keep saying it, life happens. It can be messy, emotional, and full of troubling situations. That won’t change. So, how can you change anything at all? Lots of times you can’t change or control what’s going on around you.

The good news is you CAN control you, your thoughts, your reactions, your dreams, and your reality. No one and nothing has the power to take that away from you unless YOU give it to them.

Instead of focusing on what you can’t control and all the negativity, focus on you. Your thoughts and your words have so much power in your life. I know for me once I start giving in to the negative emotions and fears that crop up in my life, they can easily take over! I have to keep paying attention to the dialogue that’s going on in my head and when I notice that the negative nellies are dragging me down the rabbit hole, I start visualizing solutions and opportunities to overcome and achieve more. I know that if I start creating possibilities, goals, and dreams in my mind, I can create an opening…a shift…and then I am back on the pathway to moving forward. It’s important for us to be able to tell ourselves that the roadblocks and problems that keep us fearful and feeling afraid to even have hope don’t really exist (except in our minds).

Every time your mind throws up a past roadblock with a memory or thought that makes you feel fearful and powerless to control your reality, just clear your mind. Take a deep breath and release that obstacle. Immediately visualize those awesome dreams and goals you have (and a couple of the next steps you can take to get there). See yourself following through the steps to make them a reality. Reprogram your brain to focus on you and what you CAN do, not live in fear of what you perceive might happen.

Tell yourself, “I am uniquely gifted to deal with any and every situation presented in my life. No one and nothing can control my being, my mind, my thoughts, and my reality. I will empower myself to reach for my goals and dreams. I will face everything and rise to my magnificence. I will be a beacon of light to those around me still living in the shadows of fear.”

 

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5 Steps to Magnificence

Emotional FreedomFear, anxiety, stress, depression… all of these are very difficult emotional blocks to overcome. I know. I have battled them myself. And, although I am not perfect (and don’t expect to be) I have become the more positive, focused person I am today through very deliberate action. I have made choices to create the life I want to have emotionally.

We are all works-in-progress. We never fully stop growing and developing when we take action to not be overcome by negative emotions.

You can overcome the persistent shadow of fear that’s always been hanging around in the back of your mind. Don’t let the fear of what you THINK your colleagues think about you, or your in-laws, or the other ‘perfect’ parents at the PTA meetings keep you stuck. Often times what we imagine people think or do is so much worse than actual reality. And our anxiety over the situation makes our own fear even greater.

There was a time in my life when my instructors were attempting to remove me from my psychology doctoral program because the depression I was struggling with was affecting my work output – I had fallen behind. For years after, I lived in the shadow of what I imagined my instructors must have thought of me as they attempted to dismiss me. I worried if perhaps they were right about me. I wondered how I could possibly be qualified to help anybody. With every new goal I set, a little demon would raise its ugly head and remind me of my shortcomings, causing me to be terrified that I would be “found out.”

This fear interfered with my willingness to take risks and step outside the box in my career for a long time. But I chose to keep growing and moving forward at whatever pace I could and push through those negative thoughts when they showed up. And, the truth is, they still show up occasionally. Every time I am about to take a new leap in my career or try something new, that creepy little fear shows up. But, I now know how to deal with it. And, I know why it’s there and why I am here…I have a purpose and passion to fulfill. The choice I make every day is not to let the fears that do show up stop me in my tracks anymore.

Here are some things you can do to help you overcome these issues yourself.

1. Let go of your emotional blockages. There is not a single thing you can do to change the world around you. The only thing you CAN control is yourself. You can control your own thoughts and actions to all the chaos around you. Your worry, fear, and anxiety are not helping to fix a single problem. They are making it worse. And making you more of a mess in the process. Let it go. Forgive, forget, and move on.

2. Discover your purpose and passion. Find something you love to focus on. Maybe it’s volunteering at the animal shelter. Maybe your hobby of cooking freezer meals can help you give to shut in neighbors and new mothers that need a little extra help. Maybe it’s as simple as finding one good habit to start putting yourself first, like an evening meditative walk that helps you focus on nature and all of the positive around you. Put on your headset, play the positive tunes, or an uplifting podcast to escape your own negative thoughts while you walk it out.

3. Live fearlessly. Don’t procrastinate moving forward in your life. Make it a mission to confront the issues causing your emotional and physical paralysis so you can get ‘unstuck’. The only person you have to prove something to is yourself. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks of you. Get a vision of what you want, set a course, and go after it.

4. Create an unshakable confidence. Believe in yourself and your ability to overcome and achieve. The only limits on life you have are the ones you give yourself. Take a risk and trust yourself. YOU are the cause of great things happening in your life, not the effect or reaction to what’s around you.

5. Own your magnificence. You have a beautiful light inside of you. Stand on the stage of your life and own it. Don’t be afraid to let others see the greatness inside of you. Step into your own and let your light shine.

These are the keys that have led me toward emotional freedom. I k now they can bring the same to you.

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Fear Less, DO More

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What is the purpose of fear?? Some say it helps them get motivated to do something. Others will tell you it makes them paralyzed.

Fear is our body’s mechanism for stopping us from putting our heads into the mouths of lions! It’s our brain’s mechanism for keeping us safe. It comes from the little alarm signal we have in our brain called the amygdala. The amygdala is supposed to send us a signal telling us that danger is present and we should “Watch out”! The problem for many of us though is that our amygdala is pretty sensitive and it keeps going off and ringing in our heads when it is really a false alarm.

We react to most fears…such as fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment and even fear of public speaking almost exactly the same as if death were imminent! Our body doesn’t know the difference. When we are in a state of fear, our brain thinks death is coming and you need to be protected…so it gets prepared to fight, flee, or freeze. The adrenaline gets pumping and your heart beats fast.

Can you relate?

For many people FEAR stops them from moving forward and doing the things they really want to do. It keeps them stuck. They’re afraid of being rejected, of not succeeding, of being humiliated, and so they do nothing. They stand in their own way and keep themselves in the same place. Then doubt creeps in…then worry…and then you stop believing WATCH: Arnold Classic 2018 Live Stream – Generation Iron Fitness & Bodybuilding Network trenbolone acetate bodybuilding granny helps browns’ mingo get jacked that you CAN realize your dreams, that you deserve to fulfill your dreams, and you stop believing in yourself.

The funny thing about fear is that once you realize that you won’t REALLY die if things go wrong or if people don’t like you and you keep reminding yourself that you can be OK no matter what, the fear goes away. Now I am not going to tell you that it will never come back, cause that would be a lie.

But I can tell you that when you feel the fear and do it anyway, your body and brain gets the message.

So the next time you feel like if you might die if you make a mistake or someone rejects you, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen if…”

Then take a deep breath and do it anyway. Teach your brain and body that not everything is a life or death situation. Action trumps fear every time. You can do it!

Peace and Blessings,

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